5.- The Overprotecting Parent: Most parents on the spectrum are “labeled” into this category. However, what most neurotypical parents might not understand is the fact that your child has different needs. Let’s start with some facts we can all agree upon:
-Your child needs more help than most other children. You will have more contact with teachers and school staff, more contact with medical providers, and more contact with therapists of all stripes.
-You will need to set up social opportunities and playdates and provide guidance during these events. You will need to do this longer than most other children will require.
-You will develop amazing skills related to anxiety and stress management, and you will be the touchstone for your child. You will be able to read and comfort your child better than anyone else. You have a necessary role in your child’s life.
-You may need to accompany your child to appointments for more years than other children require. You may be more hands-on as your child transitions to work/college/dating.
-You will change your parenting style over time. You know this. You already do this, but maybe don’t see it happening. But you do actually change how you parent.
You are sometimes criticized for your role in your child’s life. Others fail to understand what your child needs. And, if we are being honest, sometimes you “over parent” because not doing so results in meltdowns, high anxiety and stress, and some other things you are actively trying to avoid. So the answer is no, you are not overparenting your child as long as you know his/her limitations, and allow him/her to do what he/she is capable of.